I know I know…
We get tired of hearing these stories about “natural hair” being an issue in the workplace.
I personally think it’s important to put these things on the forefront.
I don’t blog just for personal gain, I blog also to show others that this can be used as an outlet. I sort of news channel of your own to say what you want. With that being said if any woman reports to me that she was done wrong in any fashion, especially African American women, I want to be able to give them a place to stand proudly and protest.
How often are our voices heard?
I hope you all don’t grow tired of hearing these stories because they need to be heard.
Maribeth was brave enough to send her story in about unprofessional comments being made in her work place by people of our own ( which is just repulsive to me but that’s another story) about her natural hair. Here is her story
It was a few years ago while I was a temp at a non profit in HARLEM (yes Harlem, the community where African American culture goes to flourish). The HR director was an older (50s) African American woman.
She liked me when I first started but over the course of the three months I was there things went downhill. Two other women in upper management whom I didn’t work with or interact with much were very clear with their dislike of me.
They regularly gave me dirty looks but things got worse after I took out my yarn twists and wore my natural hair out. That’s when the complaints started. They would go to my boss and the CEO and tell them that I looked inappropriate and didn’t fit in. Eventually they rubbed off on the HR director and she began to treat me poorly as well. She would look at me and say “I thought you said you were doing your hair over the weekend” or “I don’t really like natural hair” or “that look doesn’t work well for everyone”. The nasty comment about me looking dirty and unkept was said behind my back, to her assistant.
Unfortunately the assistant waited until both me and the HR director were gone from the organization to tell me about the comment. Who was I going to complain to? I was in a new position at a different organization (still in Harlem) and was working with a team (of mostly White people) who LOVED my natural hair and regularly changing hairstyles.
That is something that I will never understand: why do black women hate our natural hair so much and White people (both men and women) love it so much?
I think this is great question and a topic that should be further discussed in our community.
Why do we have so much self-hate ingrained in us? What is the root cause?