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Big Girls Can’t Wear Natural Hair

big girls natural hair

By Asia Martin (

I was in the lobby of a job I was applying for and a woman approached me about some job position I had no idea about. Once we had established that we were not waiting on the same business she started a discussion about my hair. “So how long have you been natural,” she asked. I let her know that I had been natural for about two and half years now and how I had made the big decision to be natural. She continued to inquire about my natural-ness, but when turned the conversation about her she made a comment that kind of disturbed me.

This woman was tall and thick, she was still getting relaxers, was wearing a sew-in, and I thought she was a pretty girl with a fabulous skin complexion. She expressed that she wanted to wear her hair natural. She wanted to be a wash-and-go woman but feared that she wouldn’t look right because people have told her that short styles don’t work well on big girls. EXCUSE ME! I immediately informed her that it was a lie from the devil.

I am not a big girl, but I know that any hairstyle you have has nothing to do with your weight. I told the woman that hairstyles have more to do with your face shape since they have the ability to enhance certain facial features and hide others. However, after remembering that TWAs bare all aspects of your entire head, I now think that having natural hair is a style that you have to figure out how to make work for you.

Like my mother told me; “That’s how you can tell your true beauty, is when you whack it off and have to figure out what to do with it.”

I hid my transition to the natural life because I was afraid of what it might reveal to the world. But when I finally got tired of hiding behind hot combs and braids I went to a salon and had the stylist cut every last relaxed piece of hair off. I was so happy and felt so liberated that I didn’t even notice how crazy I looked. Even though I would do it all over again, I laugh at my past self. The first six months was roughest part because I knew nothing, my hair had been reborn, and I had too high of an expectation for my hair texture.

Once I got through that first six months, found some styles, found a great support system made of friends, family, and some strangers, I had more confidence in my personality and my looks. Being natural was my self-discovery and self-creation.

Whether you are big, small or in between, having natural hair is a journey about discovering your true beauty and not being stuck in popular belief.

I thought this was a great post by Asia. Have you ever expereienced or heard something so foolish? What does your weight have to do with your hairstyle? Ladies please chime in with your thoughts.

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  1. I had the same worries before I bc’d. I’m short with a big bottom and thick legs. My face is a little chubby too. I was told by peers that faces like mines need long hairstyles.
    But then one day I said what the heck and cut my hair off. And I think that it looks fabolous.
    I even inspired my mom to chop all her hair off and she looks gorgeous too.
    Its a matter of confidence, not weight

  2. I AM a big girl! Always have been and I LOVE being natural!! I have been natural for three years and yes I’ve had some ups and downs. This is my second time going natural because the first time I didn’t like the way I looked with short hair. So I grew it out (with sew-ins) the second time before I began wearing my fro. I get soooo many compliments on my hair and questions about what I do to get my hair the way it looks that I started a blog! I wish I had done it sooner!

  3. Big girl here…six months natural…took a minute to get used to, but now wouldn’t have it any other way. Even my family members who.were against short hair have come around.

  4. I love this post! I think many of us natural hair chicks that transitioned and/or big chopped felt that initial awkward-ness in trying to figure out what to do with the natural yet foreign texture covering our crowns. It really isn’t about a person’s weight to make any style work it’s all about the inner beauty and confidence one has to pull off a look. At least in my opinion it is. I say as long as YOU feel comfortable with YOU, other people have no choice but to accept and love

  5. I love my TWA and I don’t care what no one says. It looks pretty good on me too. You must feel good about yourself, that way people will see the confidence and you will rock any hairstyle, but especially the TWA.

  6. This is a great post! I’m going to re-post it on BGLH, but it seems that the blog of origin is no longer in existence 🙁

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