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10 Great Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Bring Back

By Kate Bailey

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1. Coming to the door to pick someone up.

I think we’ve all had it with the incredibly unromantic “here” text, and meeting up always seems to be more casual and platonic than the alternative. Of course, meeting someone from online or any circumstance like that would probably be the exception to this rule, but generally: the 30 seconds it takes to get out of a car or cab and knock on the door makes a huge difference.

2. Trying to dress really nicely for a date.

“Nicely” means different things for different people, so I think it’s just a matter of putting effort into how you put yourself together to go out with someone. It’s not about wearing suits and petticoats again, but just realizing that, whether or not we like to accept it, appearance does count for something, and we should do our best to make sure that our appearance says something about us, in whatever way we’d like it to.

3. Bringing flowers or other tokens of affection to the first date.

Now, many lucky ladies (and some men) I know get this regularly, and in fact, I have myself as well, but only ever with people I’d been dating for a while. I think there’s something to be said for bringing flowers to the door on your first date. It’s become uncool because it’s forward and it’s a gesture that confirms their interest, but we should definitely get past that idea and worry more about how we’re going to let someone know we really do care and appreciate that they want to spend time with us.

4. Going dancing that’s not grinding on a grimy club floor.

Whatever happened to this? Dancing for the sake of dancing, like fun, not essentially sex on a dance floor dancing. What’s a better way to literally shake off nerves than seeing them bust a really dorky move on a dance floor? And the art of slow dancing has generally been lost, though I’ve been one to do it in my living room with my slightly coerced significant other, and I’ll tell you he’s said on numerous occasions it ended up being one of the most romantic nights we had together.

5. Straightforwardly asking someone out and not calling it “hanging out.”

Or, as is very popular these days, “talking.” “Oh, we’re just… talking.” As in, seeing one another and speaking frequently as to get to know each other? So… dating? We’ve found these really convenient ways to skirt around the issue of having to put our hearts on the line, but honestly, it just ends up being messy and confusing for all parties involved. There’s no need to go back to the idea of courting or anything, unless you want to, but simply being direct about whether or not you’d like to go on a date with someone is a truly lost art, one that really shouldn’t be.

6. Additionally, being clear about when you’re “going steady.”

Oh, the awkward, “so… are we… you know… what are we?” talk. Classic. We should go back to asking one another if the other person would like to “go steady” or something. There’s something about asking them if they’d like to rather than assuming that you are or aren’t anything that’s just very cute, in my opinion.

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Gabrielle Allen aka StrawberriCurls, the natural hair blogger from New Orleans is a native in New Orleans, La and currently a cosmetology student and natural hair stylists. Gabrielle’s 4 year natural anniversary was in May 2013 and she hasn’t looked back since! She started a blog called Strawberricurls.com for natural hair care and tips and she now shares all that she has learned about caring for hair via her YouTube channel and her natural hair blog. 3 years after starting her blog, she made the decision to go to cosmetology school to pursue her passion of educating women about their hair. She has been featured on Essence.com for 2 consecutive years as one of the top Natural Hair Bloggers, hosted events for various natural hair brands such as African Pride and worked with brands Sofn'Free, Nothin'But Hair Care and a list of others. She has also hosted her on natural hair educational meetups in New Orleans.

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      Women are in control of this, I firmly believe. If you let a man know from the beginning what you expect he will either rise to your expectations or he will leave you alone.
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        Preach
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